Changing Behaviors Always Begins With Me

I've decided I am too nice a guy.  I give anybody a second chance, and frequently a third and fourth chance.  As a consequence, some of my friends take advantage of me and stretch the boundaries of our friendship at times.  What they don't realize, is that I do have a good memory and will eventually download on them all my baggage.  I try to do this nicely, but it typically ends up being rather harsh and direct.

I know this is my failing and have been trying to be more immediate and direct in my feedback to others.  So far, the experiments with this new behavior have been very positive and it is becoming easier for me to deliver immediate feedback regarding my interpretations and feelings about their behaviors.

A couple I work with don't seem to follow the standard though.  They sidestep the day to day feedback and chose to have blinders on as to their rightness and their rights - even when they infringe on others.  So, I have been working at it daily to provide feedback to them and no change seems to be taking place.  In order o break through this barrier of not having the impact I desire, I am now putting everything in writing so they can take the time to read and reread my feedback.

I'm choosing to believe this will work, and don't have enough indication of their response yet.  We'll see in the near future.

The point being that Difficult People come in all shapes, sizes and demeanors.  Dealing with them is a matter of experimenting with new and different behaviors that I don't normally have to employ.  The fact is, I MUST CHANGE, in order for something different to happen.  This is an interesting dichotomy considering I want them to change, but I must initiate it.

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